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Unwanted and Long Winded
Wise Metal Gods,
I have been quite troubled lately, and seek your advice. My brother moved across country several years ago, and I have not been able to visit him since then. Recently, an opportunity has come up that I may finally be able to visit. I contacted him with the news, expecting him to be happy to see me, but instead he seems to be avoiding me like the plague. He is not returning emails, and I suspect he is screening his calls. I am so confused….could it be that he really does not want me to visit?? Could it be he likes being thousands of miles away, only having to see me once a year?? I thought I was the one family member that he did not try to avoid, but now I see that that may not be the case. I feel foolish, and now fear that if I do visit, I will be nothing more than an unwanted houseguest.
I am hurt and confused by this situation, and dont know what to think or do.
Please guide me with your infinite wisdom.
Unwanted
Dear Unwanted and Long winded,
Your brother’s behavior is most likely a simple question of economincs. He may actually have a job and need to earn a living instead of spending all day talking you down from the ledge of paranoia.
Answer the Metal Gods this: Don’t you have anything better to do with your life than aimlessly wander through a jungle of self-loathing, fear-riddled delusions (which most likely drove your brother away in the first place) wondering what other people may or may not be thinking?
You need to look inward to find peace and acceptance, not outward to your poor brother.
You should begin by meditating on the sage Zen Question that the Metal Goddess Lita Ford asked in her song “Black.”
“Black, is it the pain you own, or the plague that’s eating your bones?”
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